Question: Is a Gift Appropriate for a Second Wedding? If so, what?
If the bride or groom has been married before, you don’t have to give them a gift. However it is still a nice thing to do, whether or not you attend their wedding. A gift is part of the celebration and shows that you are thinking of them on their special day.
However, the type of gift may be different from something you would give to a couple who has never been married before. Chances are, they have all the toasters and kitchen gadgets they need. Their bathroom is probably well stocked with towels and linens. If you give them more pots and pans, they might not have room for them.
Find out if the couple has registered at a store and choose something from the registry. If they haven’t, consider a gift card to their favorite restaurant or event you know they will both enjoy. A gift card for a couple's massage or dinner cruise will probably be appreciated. Some couples may have everything they need and request a contribution to a charity or special cause.
If you are in doubt, ask. It's always better to give them something they want and can use than something they'll only pull out when you visit.