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How to Set a Table for a Formal Dinner

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How to Set a Table for a Formal Dinner

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There is no need to feel intimidated by hosting a formal dinner party. The etiquette rules for setting the table are simple and very straightforward. If this is your first time, familiarize yourself with a few rules and tips, and your guests will have no idea that you’ve never done it before.

Remember that this is your dinner party, and you may need to tweak some of the rules to make it work for your table or meal. Don’t make an issue of it unless someone asks about it. Many people have no idea how a formal dinner table is supposed to be set, so the guests are likely to look to you for guidance on proper etiquette. Discreetly take the lead. If anyone makes a mistake, do whatever you can to cover. You don’t want anyone to be embarrassed by not knowing what to do.

Tablecloth

Although a white linen tablecloth isn’t essential for a formal dinner party, you can’t go wrong with one. The elegance of a starched white tablecloth and matching napkins sets the stage for your meal.

Even the simplest of foods will look nice against the white background. Off-white is another elegant good option. You may also use contrasting napkins for a more dramatic effect.

Dinner Plates

The first item to place on the tablecloth is the dinner plate. Position it right in the middle of each setting, equally spaced and with enough room for the rest of the setting. You may use napkin rings or fold the napkins elegantly. Place them in the middle of the dinner plate.

Utensils

The eating utensils should be placed in order of how they are intended to be used, starting with the outside and working toward the plate. The forks go on the left, and the knives and spoons go on the right, with the knife closest to the plate. Always position the knife with the cutting blade pointing toward the plate.

Butter knives should be placed on the bread plate. If your guests will need a dessert spoon or fork, place it above the plate. You don’t need to place any utensils that are not needed for the meal.

Other Dishes

You will need to make sure you have room for additional plates for bread and additional courses you will be serving. Position the bread plate just beyond the tip of the forks. Soup bowls and salad plates should be centered on the dinner plate, one at a time, and removed before the main course is served.

Glasses and Stemware

To the right of the plate, and toward the center of the table is where you should place the water glass. If you are serving wine, the wine glass should be next to the water glass. However, if you choose to go ahead and put them out, they should go just beyond the tip of the knife.

Dessert Setting

After the dishes from the main part of the meal are cleared, position the dessert plate directly in front of each guest. The only glass that should remain is the water glass. Coffee will be brought with the dessert, so this is the time to add the coffee cups which should be placed about an inch beyond the top right of the dessert plate or bowl.

Centerpiece

A formal dinner calls for an elegant centerpiece. Use candles, flowers, or any other decoration that enhances the table without distracting from the meal. Make sure it isn’t too tall. A top of a centerpiece for any dinner party should be below eye level so guests can see everyone else at the table.

Formal Wedding Reception Dinner

If you are setting the table for a wedding reception, you may choose to add the party favors. These may be placed on the plate or just beyond the plate toward the center of the table. Favors that don’t enhance the setting may be given at the door rather than place on the table. You may also choose to have to cluster the favors in lieu of a centerpiece.

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